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Insecure's Lawrence is a hero to Blerd men


Sunday's season finale of the hit new show “Insecure” ended with essentially an emotional roller coaster and ultimately a small feeling of hope for said characters. But out of it came the debate of whether or not Lawrence's actions in response to Issas’ cheating was right. And I'm here to say: yes, dear god yes, it wasn’t just right, its what every last man like him wishes they could do when they’ve been in his position.

Lawrence is like a lot of Blerd men: intelligent, ambitious, earnest but a bit frustrated that things aren’t going his way despite their best efforts. But despite all his dysfunction, at the very least he has love to hold on to. Or had. I think Blerd men can all relate to at some point in our lives having a woman play with our emotions, make us believe that despite the relationships problems, that they’ll be right by their side to 3005. But alas, their selfish physical needs trump their love for them. And in the end, we the blerd man are left hurt and dejected. From the time we’re introduced to Lawrence, we’re supposed to feel like he's a bit of a fuckup despite us eventually realizing more about him as the series goes on, but from the jump, Issa already is sharpening the knife to stab in his back under the guise of the belief that he’s a lost cause. From the very first episode has her hastily breaking up with him to pursue an ex who even SHE admitted was a fucking problem. Lawrence has ambition, he's intelligent, he had the gumption to put his dreams of the back burner to work a job he hated just to prove to Issa that he had it in him to actually be of substance. People all the time say that just because your a nice guy, nobody owes you their affections for being nice. But when you have all these positive traits ALONG with being a nice guy and you still get rejected, it's an entirely different type of pain.

Ultimately, why did she end up straying? In an effort to get rid of a problem she caused ENTIRELY herself. Remember, the only reason she was at that open mic was to try and fuck her ex Daniel who invited her, and even then she didn’t have to go on stage to perform that stupid ass song “broken pussy”. But because the video ended up on Youtube and made her a joke to the kids she worked with, she scrambled to get it erased and decided to go to Daniel to try and see if he knew who out of a room of probably hundreds of people recorded said video. And then even the excuse he used to convince her to hang out at his studio was stupid!

Never forget, the entire time Issa was off fantasizing about her ex shirtless and complaining about kids making fun of her over a stupid video, Lawrence was working a job he hated while STILL doing interviews for a better one, all while starving off the advances of a woman who was actually motivating him. Oh, and he got the video taken down. LAWRENCE did.

When people go on and on about how there are situations in a relationship where cheating should be ignored, I have to call bullshit either way. Real talk, all the guys who say this only say it cause they grew up with uncles or grandfathers who were young when being divorced as a woman meant you might as well have had an incurable STD; while the women who say this really don’t understand that any man who is honestly okay with staying with a woman who cheats on them is likely also a man with no real integrity. But in the case of Lawrence, I hope he enjoyed himself. I hope this show NEVER puts him and Issa back in a relationship again. I hope that at best, the show has them go on like the end of “Temptation: confessions of a marriage counselor” and just be on good terms, but have them move on romantically. Them getting back together is many steps too far back for Lawrence and negates the need for Issa to have learned anything from all this.

Many of you will call me a me a misogynist, many will call me hurt or bitter. But no matter what you think of what Im saying, remember this one thing: There's no sex in the champagne room, or at least none under 400 dollars in Lawrence’s case.

This submission comes courtesy of @awkblerd who you can keep up with on Twitter. 

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  1. Good analysis. I Tivo'ed the season of Insecure until I had time to catch up and watch it, and just caught the last episode last week. As an old school blerd, I recall being in Lawrence's shoes a few times. It took numerous heartbreaks before I finally got to the point where I was able to focus on myself instead of the heartache and do what Lawrence did at the end of the finale. The moment he called Issa and asked to talk, I saw my own history replaying itself, then...boom! Him and girl in bed, and I could hear myself cackle a little, and remembered how liberating that was for me.

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